If your family gatherings look anything like mine, they’re a whirlwind of overlapping conversations, laughter, and a delightful kind of noise where everyone somehow manages to talk and listen all at once. It’s a skill my aunts and uncles have perfected — juggling multiple conversations without missing a beat. Meanwhile, I’m often only halfway there, marveling at their effortless multitasking as I try to keep up. The end result? A joyous, lively atmosphere full of warmth and connection.
But here’s the catch: sometimes, amidst all the excitement, you just crave a little quiet. A moment to yourself where you can catch your breath, reset your energy, and return refreshed to the joyful chaos.
Over the years, I’ve discovered a simple yet powerful secret to not just surviving but truly enjoying big family get-togethers: stealing away in small, intentional moments of solitude. Here are some of my favorite ways to do just that.
1. Run an Errand — Any Errand
Whether it’s filling up the car with gas, grabbing a bottle of wine for dinner, picking up milk for breakfast, or fetching grandma’s favorite sweater from the other house, errands are a perfect excuse to slip away. Not only do you get a break from the noise, but you also feel productive, which adds a nice sense of accomplishment to your mini escape.
2. Go for a Walk
Even a quick 20-minute loop around the block can work wonders. Plug in a funny podcast (I have a few favorites that never fail to make me laugh) and let the fresh air clear your mind. A little movement, some solitude, and a few moments of laughter or reflection — it’s the perfect reset button.
3. Take One Kid on a Mini Adventure
If you have kids, you might think solitude is impossible. But I’ve found that even spending quiet time with just one child can give you that much-needed breather. For example, I’ll take Anton to throw darts at the pub — a low-key way to enjoy each other’s company without the full family frenzy. Toby, on the other hand, never turns down an ice cream or hot chocolate run, and those outings become small, peaceful adventures amid the chaos.
4. Walk Someone Else’s Dog or Baby
Offering to take someone’s dog for a stroll not only gives you a break but also helps out a fellow family member who might be juggling too many things. Similarly, volunteering to walk a baby around the block is a win-win. The tired parents get a rest, and you get a peaceful moment of calm and connection with a tiny new family member.
5. Read Together in a Quiet Spot
Sometimes, carving out a cozy nook for a shared reading session with a child or another relative is a wonderful way to recharge. It’s calm, gentle, and provides a soothing contrast to the louder moments of the gathering.
6. Close Your Eyes — Seriously
If all else fails, simply closing your eyes for a few minutes can do wonders. You don’t even need to leave the room. Find a corner, sit quietly, and let yourself drift away briefly. That pause can be the difference between feeling overwhelmed and feeling ready to jump back into the fun.
These small moments of solitude don’t just keep me sane — they help me show up more fully for the people I love. When I return to the group after a brief escape, I feel recharged, more patient, and ready to dive back into the joyful noise and chaos that make family gatherings so special.
What about you? Do you sneak away for little breaks during big family events? What’s your secret to balancing the buzz with a bit of peace? I’d love to hear your tips and tricks. After all, surviving family gatherings is an art form — and it’s always better when we share the best moves.
